- Posted by Claire Neylan
- On December 27, 2015
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- You give off a ‘stay away’ signal
When you’re energy is uninviting, men obey the signals! They need a green light so that they can approach you.
Even though men are not renowned for their emotional intelligence, they still have their basic instinct as men and are attracted to women with positive energy. They are drawn to women who give off a good vibe – women who are actually having fun, not just pretending to have fun. If you’re comfortable with who you are and enjoy being independent, that’s attractive. The dating and relationships merry-go-round can be crazy, but it’s all part of life, so don’t take it too seriously and have some fun with it.
- Men want a woman to be a woman
Men want a woman who can be soft and feminine so that they can be the man, even more so when they are interested in you. I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but it’s important.
A man cannot match you in emotional intelligence, so let him at least show you that he can be decisive, charming and protective. This can only happen when you settle more into your softer, sensual self. He will pick up that you are confident in being a woman and he will be able to take on a more masculine role with you. An intuitive woman understands that being soft and giving a man space to be a man does not undermine her value as a woman. It adds to her charm and allows her to be sensual. It also allows sexual attraction to happen by setting up a feminine/masculine polarity. We know opposites attract.
- Confidence is a very powerful aphrodisiac to men
No one is born with confidence. It’s gained by taking baby steps every day. You have natural abilities as a woman, so begin practising them – try being softer, smiling and flirting more, being open to just having a conversation with a man. I’m not asking you to change who you are, you’ll still have your own opinions and ideas which make you unique. This is about developing more of yourself and what man wouldn’t want more of a woman?!
A man likes to chase. It’s in his genes and it’s fun too. He wants to win you over and likes when you play hard-to-get. To a point. If you are too keen and eager to please him it will put him off. This will leave the door open for needy and desperate men or, even worse, for predators who only want to take advantage of you. And if you let your keenness turn into control, he will also take a step back.
Give off signs that you are interested but not desperate and that you are willing to walk away if he’s not good enough for you.
I wish you fun and happy dating over the festive season.
Your relationship coach